" So..... Why Do You Love Me?"

Fellas, let me tell you something LOL.

When a woman asks you why you love her, one of two things is usually happening: she either a) thinks you are the most awesome guy on the planet and wonders what she ever did to deserve you or b) thinks youre full of shit. In either case, when asked, your best bet is to answer the question.

Now when you answer this question, fellas, PLEASE remember that even if she seemed to ask in a joking fashion, a woman who is in the frame of mind to ask this question is in a vulnerable and sensitive space. She wants to know that you meant it when you said you loved her. She wants your answer to correlate with something she's said or done, that shows you've been paying attention. Do yourself a favor and dont be a smart ass - this will end badly LOL. Keep it short and sweet, but ANSWER THE QUESTION - especially if you really want to be with her. Chances are, she is trying to decide whether to move on with you or cut her losses, and your response could be the difference between one or the other.

A lotta yall get nervous when a woman asks this question and make the mistake of thinking deflection and avoidance will save you. Trust me, she will just ask you again LOL. Some think a vague, generic response is the way to go - *EH!!!* Wrong! Your response better sound like it was engineered JUST for her, or she'll keep probing and asking questions until she is satisfied that she knows how you feel about her.

Lastly, but most certainly not of least importance, do NOT get defensive. "I shouldnt have to explain my feelings" is not an appropriate response. You are asking an already emotional being to further open up and give of herself completely. She is entitled to an answer. I've actually heard a man say, "Its not that complicated to me. Its just anyone I ever loved, it was just unconditional without any real reason."

*staring into the camera*

Im sorry.... WTF does that mean? LOL

First of all, no, it was absolutely not complicated..... until you just went and said that dumb shit you just said LOL. She asks you a simple question - one which she could surely answer about you - and you react like youre offended she even asked? And then you treat her desire to know with such blatant disregard that you default to an "anyone I ever loved" response? LOL..... Dude.... *smh* Thats the last place you wanna go with a woman who wants to know why you love HER. And isnt it valid, folks? Especially when you use the term "unconditional love" because thats not no regular kinda love LOL. If you love a person unconditionally, there have to be reasons, even if you dont know what they are. And believe it or not, THATS okay to say too. Tell her you really dont know what it is, its everything, its the way she makes you feel like you can conquer the world LOL (heard that too before - good job, Guy Im not gon mention LOL) But ANSWER her. Dont ever make her desire to know seem trivial. After all, love breathes and grows on communication. Why wouldnt you want the woman you love to know what it is about her that you love? It will only help your relationship if she knows that there is something that only she has been able to provide you. I promise you, if she believes you, she'll only try harder to make you happy.

But think about it: not a whole lotta yall fall into the "most awesome guy on the planet" category LOL. Chances are pretty good that you are being asked this question because your actions dont add up to your words. Men who really love their women - especially when they first realize it - move differently. She wont doubt his feelings and neither will anyone else. So if your actions dont tell the story, AND you dont wanna talk about it, maybe you dont really know what love is.....

Im just sayin.