Dont You Be Nobody's Fool

Do you know a red flag when you see one? Does it afford you caution, or does it make you pull completely out of a situation?

People will tell you who they are if you just listen. Sometimes emotions cloud our judgment, especially in a relationship situation where we have invested so much time and energy that we don't want to see it go to waste. That little twinge of doubt tends to make us worry about making the wrong decision, later regretting it. But I say to you all that it is better to err on the side of caution when the only gray in the situation is the paint you, yourself, throw onto the canvas.

There is a comedian named Jemerio (I think that's his name LOL) who always gives the audience these scenarios and then says "Don't you be nobody's fool..."

I just want to put a bug in your ear tonight, giving you the same advice. Don't you be nobody's fool. I dont want anybody out there to be so jaded by emotion that they ignore red flags with people who hold their hearts or futures in their hands, and I have had occasion twice today to have this conversation with people. In most cases, if you take the emotion out of a situation and just look at the cold, hard facts, things will be pretty clear. No one can tell you what to do, but likewise, no one will have to live with the decisions you make but you. I've said it once, and I will say it again: if given the choice between loving a woman and loving a man, I will choose to love a woman every time - me.

Choose wisely.

I believe in second chances. I believe in innocent until proven guilty. I believe that what you do in the dark will always - ALWAYS - come to light. What I dont believe in is being the sacrificial lamb to somebody else's redemption. If I am nothing else, I am a good friend, so when I go against my e-shrink rules to tell a person what I feel in my heart, it is because I truly feel it in my spirit, and I dont believe I would be a good friend if I didnt speak it. I hope the two people I broke those rules for today understand that, and know that they are still free to make their own choices, and that I will still be there for them should they go against my advice. Thats what real friends do. I would hope that I could expect the same from those I perceive to be mine.