WTF

Dear Doctor Dig;

WTF is this shit? I don’t even know what she talking about. I never said I wanted her to be somebody else. I just told her how she be acting sometimes and next thing you know it was a argument cause she aint like what I said. Then she started turning stuff around on me and now all of a sudden I don’t see myself. She aint even tell me what that means. See what? I think if she would just said we need some time then ok but she went writing letters and shit and trying to act like its all me that’s wrong so fuck it. I don’t even want her now but maybe you can tell me what this shit is suppose to mean.

“I wish things could have turned out differently, but sometimes, it just is what it is. We’d never be able to get where we need to be, because you’re more interested in being right than actually trying to resolve anything. You’ve got me really twisted. I am nothing like you make me out to be. But how can I expect you to see who I am, when you won’t even see yourself...

I’m a little sad its ending like this after all the high hopes we had, and make no mistake, I love you very much, but I’d rather let you go because I’m not who you want me to be, than to become somebody I’m not, just to keep you. If that’s what it takes to be together, we’re both better off with someone else.

Take care of yourself.”

-WTF?

Alrighty then LOL. First of all, thank you for giving me something else to do today besides be pissed off about some shit I cant do nothing about, like I have been since last night – nevermind LOL. Second of all, forgive the corrections I made in your email, but Im a writer, so certain shit disturbs me - all them damn abbreviations were giving me spasms LOL. Love you though! **muah!** LOL

No, for real. I don’t think I know enough about the situation to really get all that deep into it, but it sounds like whatever it was you said to her, really hurt her feelings. It sounds like it hurt her feelings to the point of….. you ever have somebody say something to you that gives you pause? You stop in your tracks, look at the person, with the intention of going off, but youre so thrown, all you can do is walk away pissed? Sounds like that. Sometimes somebody can say something to you that forever changes the way you see them. I had a boyfriend a year or two ago…. probably two years ago now….that said some shit to me like that. I looked at him and was like “wow” and there was no coming back from it. Now, that’s not to say that what you said to her wasn’t the truth. Maybe it was, and maybe it was something you both already knew going in, so she was like, why you even going there? And it sounds like she said some stuff back to you that you were (maybe) in denial about….. tell me what she said, I’ll tell you if its true or not LMAO!

No really though, you may not have meant any real harm by whatever you said, or maybe it came out of frustration, but, as unfair as it may seem, there are certain things you just cannot say to a woman. She’ll never forgive you. For instance (speaking for self LOL) a person could never compare me to my mother – especially one who knows what our relationship is like or things (I feel) she’s done. I say “I feel” because that’s key – even if I were completely jaded about the situation and totally overreacting, or not acknowledging some part I played in it all, the fact that I FEEL that way should make a person who loves me feel that it was off limits. Its not about perpetuating something or being some kind of enabler, its about realizing that some things are a lot deeper than your understanding, and you should respect that arms length on the subject. You don’t always have to know why I feel a way about something or somebody, just respect that I do. You know what I mean? Stuff like that, you have to be careful with.

But what difference does it make anyway now? You said fuck her, and you don’t want her back, right? LOL Mmhmm….. sounds like you STILL in denial LOL. Put your ego on the shelf, dawg. You know you want yo baby back LOL.

Nah, good luck with that though. Too many relationships are breaking up for dumb shit. If this can be salvaged, save it.