Not Ready To Date

What do you do when you come across somebody who is just what you need and want in your life but you're not ready to date? Well.... I guess I'm about to find out.

I've been talking to this guy for.... mmm... about a month, I guess. We decided it would be prudent to go ahead and knock that first date out to see if we still felt like this was a path we wanted to continue on, and we went out Friday. GREAT time. Went to dinner and spent the next six hours in his truck listening to 90's R&B. WHO sits in a truck for six hours doing ANYTHING? That tells you something, right? I would think so, but a few days later, we haven't really talked, didn't assess the date, didn't really touch base at all really, then suddenly, there was just radio silence. I'm like WTF because Friday was EVERYTHING. Finally today, he sends me a text that he is dealing with some personal stuff and he thought he was ready to date but he isn't.

Hmmm.....

A seasoned pimp like me knows this could be bull but also knows "not ready to date" is real, for some. I've been in that place myself a time or two. When you come across someone so great and you're in this place, its like...... dammit man! And I think we both are feeling that right now. But at the end of the day, I'm ready to date. I'm sorry he isn't, but I'm not about to sit around and wait for him to be. Granted, when he does get ready, if I'm available, we can revisit, but I'm not about to let life pass me by while he gets his life together. Sorry, not sorry. Throw in the fact that initially he thought just falling off the grid was an acceptable thing to do - um.... excuse me? Man the fuck up and have a conversation with me about it. I'm reasonable, I know life can be inconvenient as hell. What I'm not gonna do is run after you for answers. Be a man and tell me you're going through something. If you knew me better, you would know that this is the kind of thing I'm used to and I wouldn't judge, but because you don't know me so well yet, you're worried that I won't understand or I might take you through the wringer, trying to change your mind.

Son.

Ima need you to know I'm already making weekend plans. Google me.

I like this guy so I'm highly annoyed but I know this is what you gotta deal with dating today. And I respect a person's need to take a second. But don't take it on my time. This story is still being written, I guess, until I know what the hell is going on, but I'm not hopeful there will be much else to write about.

That said, I might not even be in here talking about this except I've taken an oath for Lent to blog for 40 days straight. I don't know if the next 40 days of my life will be all that interesting, but I've committed to it, so bear with me on the days I just went to work and came home to drinking myself to sleep LOL. Just saying. I keep it 112 so everything can be peaches and cream.....

........see what I did there? LOL