8: Re-calibrate your thinking

I have a friend who I have had a HUGE crush on since the day I met him. Never in a million years did I think anything would ever come of it, so I never said anything to him about it but over the years, it became clear that there was at least a mutual attraction. After several botched attempts to hook up, we finally made it happen.... and then it happened again LOL.... and then I didn't care anymore. Don't get me wrong, he's still a great guy, I still have mad love for him, but all the palpitations and butterflies I use to get at the mere thought of him no longer occur and I don't find myself drifting off in thoughts of him like I did at one time. I've come to the conclusion that my obsession with him had a lot to do with my view of him as intangible. When you want something you think you can't possibly have, that desire intensifies exponentially. But once you get it, it becomes just like everything else. This guy is now just like every other guy I've ever known. Just a guy.

This isn't just a story about some guy I smashed, it's a message for anybody who might need to re-calibrate their thinking. Look at the bigger picture here. The idea that anything, especially a PERSON, is beyond you might seem to you like just an assessment of what you know of a situation, but really, it's an esteem issue. Something in you is making you feel like you are not good enough. Insecurity isn't something anyone wants to acknowledge but it plays a big part in a lot of the chances we are afraid to take. The next time you tell yourself no about anything - ANYTHING - I just challenge you to question yourself as to why you feel that way. No one likes to admit that they aren't always as confident or self-assured as they come off, but doing so might just clear a path for you to actually be that confident and self-assured. At the end of the day, most things we fear are not that epic and the more "intangible" things you achieve, the more you understand that not many things in this life are.

Understanding that the power of life and death, success and failure, are in the mind and tongue, whether you think you can or you think you cannot, you're gonna be right. Speak power and positivity. What do you have to lose?