Effin' Losers

He calls you on the way to work.

He calls you on the way from work.

He calls you while he’s AT work.

He calls you from the mall.

He calls you from the grocery store.

How come he never calls you from home?

You ask him and the explanation is rather lightweight, but so what, he’s now called you from home once or twice…. For about seven minutes each occasion…. And once the phone went dead right in the middle of something you were saying, but no big deal. Calls drop all the time. “I’ll just call back”….. six times….. and he wont answer. Texts aren’t being returned either. On occasion, as he gets out of his car, he says something like “aight, I'm bout to go up in here and I don’t be getting no reception in the building so Ima hit you later.” Later is always tomorrow….. on the way to work….

At work…..

or coming from work,

the mall

or the grocery store.

A man will deny it until he’s blue in the face, but those are signs of a man with another woman at home. I'm not saying its not POSSIBLE there could be another reason. He could have another MAN at home. But we hope not cause I’d have to charge you double for that couch session LOL.

One of my girlfriends came to me with this scenario, and while the details are so similar, she could come in here and think this situation is hers, but the scenario you see here is actually from my own experience.

This dude swore up and down there was nobody else at home, but he’d go all around the block with questions as to why I believed there was before he’d actually STATE that. It was like he really didn’t wanna lie so he had to build up the courage to do so with all the runaround and deflection, and then when he finally got the nerve to bite the bullet, he’d say it. But I had grown to know his responses well enough to know that it wasn’t the truth. The epiphany upset me, because it meant there would be no moving forward, but it was a relief too, because at least I now knew why there had been so many inconsistencies and so little follow through and it had nothing to do with ME.

Dudes that do stupid stuff like this are annoying as hell but its even worse when someone plays the entire role – making plans with you for the future, talking about moving where you live or moving you where they live (of course, we are talking about a long distance relationship) – and THEN the above scenario plays out. That shit is HELL, and I never could understand how a dude could be so selfish as to put a woman through it. You are having your cake and the broken woman is left just holding the knife, not sure if she wants to cut her own throat or yours.

How does a guy even think he can win in that situation? Or does he know he cant in the end but the gratification of having both temporarily is great enough that they are willing to subject themselves to going down in flames later? I guess I get that, but damn…. Utter disregard for someone’s heart? Ruining a perfectly good woman for the next man. And then yall wonder why some women go all “thin line” on ya asses….. *smh*

“The sweetest woman in the world can be the meanest woman in the world…… if you make her that way.”

Chuuuch.