Full Disclosure

So let’s talk about the divulging of information LOL.

I was in a conversation with my boyfriend today and something he said led me to ask him to clarify. What he told me was not a big deal, by any means, in itself, but the fact that it happened a whole month ago and I was just now finding out about it, kinda was.

Now I believe grown people with jobs (that’s an important separation to draw LOL) have a right to do whatever the hell they wanna do, without having to necessarily run it by anybody else, but some things need to be put in the air, especially when you are in a relationship – not just for the sake of full disclosure, but because anything could come up, and your chances of beating a wrap are a lot better if you’ve got full disclosure on your side. CYA – Cover Your Ass. Its not just for Corporate America LOL.

It really doesn’t matter what the issue is, or whom it involves – your significant other does not want to hear about it from someone else, LEAST of all from a person who is telling just to start something. Your significant other also doesn’t want to hear today about something that happened a month ago, mainly BECAUSE that’s enough time where they could have heard about it from somebody else LOL . That’s not okay.

What if you get caught up in some shit? What if – for example – you do something as innocent as seeing your ex at a bus stop in the pouring rain, giving her a ride somewhere and you fail to mention it. Inherently not a big deal right? I aint trippin, but guess what – I wanna know about it. You know why? Cause these bitches is trifling and I know you know exactly where I am going with that LOL. What if you get arrested while you are at your ex’s house? Maybe you get in a fight with some guy, or hell, maybe for strangling your ex? “Damn the charges, I aint like the bitch anyway – what you was doing over there nicca?” LMAO! Some chick at the office got the hots for you? This is not a harmless little detail. You saw Obsessed. Idris mighta saved himself a whole lotta trouble if he had just told Bey what was up from the beginning.

I guess what Im saying is that little things have the potential to become very big things, without warning. Any time you are gonna be in a place, or with a person, that has the ability to strike a sore spot with your significant other, mention it. You aint gotta make it a deal but casually blow over it …. “Yo that rain was buggin yesterday. I saw Keylolo at the bus stop, gave her a ride to her mama house. That rain was CRAZY! Hey, you remember what time the game come on?” LOL You might have a couple of follow-up questions to answer (LOL) but you have done your part. You have Keylolo-proofed me. Its like scotch guard LOL. For real though. Now I cant tell you this is going to prevent all fuckery from being afoot, but I would say your relationship is less likely to fall fatal victim to any that ensues if you handle it right.

Now I see the problem with this - there are a lotta really insecure women out there who are gonna hear that you gave Keylolo a ride and next thing you know, you are gonna be getting the third degree AND ignoring scarcastic comments for at least three months after that LOL. Lets hope you dont have one of those insecure women. That chick is gonna be checking your call records and sniffing your drawz, and nobody wants that LOL. But the average, secure, mature woman just wants the respect of being told potentially sensitive information, directly from her man, and in a timely fashion. Its just a matter of respect.

Now my particular conversation this morning was nothing like these scenarios I offered, but it did spawn this thought process. He said “I just wasn’t thinking about it.” Probably true. It wouldn’t be something I’d think about mentioning either, cause I’d probably take it for granted as a given, but even then, I’d have thought it would have come up just in regular conversation. At any rate, its in the air and he now understands why I was somewhat irritated. Now let’s see how long it will be before we have to have this conversation again LOL………