Imperfect Life

I wonder sometimes if people realize how much they are victims of their own tongues.

On one of the social sites I frequent, I got a message from a guy I didnt know, who I guess found interest in me. The first thing he says to me is that people tend to pass him by because they pre-judge him. He goes on to say how he is single because he didnt know how to remain faithful. I was confused LOL.

So I go to his page and I see his pics and its very evident, right from the door, that he's cocky. You ever see a dude who takes pictures like he just knows he is the finest thing on earth? And truth be told, this dude aint even all that - he's nice looking, I guess, but quite honestly, I probably wouldnt look twice at him if I saw him on the street. We all know that means nothing though - a man who thinks he is fine, just gonna be fine and they dont care what you say LOL.

I read further into his profile and see that he is divorced - I guess that was what the unfaithful commentary was about. But why would you lead with that? I dont know you, I dont anything about you. Why would you want the first thing you put into my head to be that you have a history of cheating? He put himself at a disadvantage from the gate. I mean, in the course of getting to know a person, things come up, and THATS the time when you address them, should you choose to do so. IMO, it's really not anybody's business who you were or what you did before you met them until such time that you decide to make them a part of your life, asking them to accept all that you are. It would be unfair for you to expect total buy-in without full disclosure. Until that point, while someone is really just a passerby on the highway of your life, what you share with them is entirely discretionary.

People prejudge you - so what. You're never gonna be able to control what someone who doesnt know you, or take the time to know you, is gonna think about you. Why make that your problem? They either take the time to find out who you really are, or they miss out on knowing, and believe it or not, sometimes they are doing you a favor by staying away. But dont wear your past indiscretions on your sleeve, especially if you claim to be a different person now. Furthermore, speak on them matter-of-factly - it is what it is - and remember that the person you are talking to is just as human as you and probably has some things of their own that they arent proud of. Your sins are no greater than theirs, and they are no better than you. Accept your shit and move on. You cant expect somebody else to if you havent.