Mama Knows Best?

I really should revamp this blog, but the truth of the matter is, I just dont care that much. After all, the people who stop in here dont come for pretty colors and buttons that do..... everything, including take them to my twitter, which I am never on, just to hear the crickets. But still, I really should revamp. Whatever.

Anyway, I had an interesting weekend, and not necessarily in the best of ways. It's had me thinking all day about people and things and a big one on my mind tonight is mothers. Now consider the source when I ask this LOL.... yall know my mom and I have a very tumultuous relationship - none at all, at the moment - but I realize that its not the norm. Most people have decent relationships with their mothers, and some so good that they include them in all the major decisions in their life. My question, I think, is when does that inclusiveness result in a compromise of one's own autonomy?

Think about these questions, for those of you whose moms are your world.... would you date someone if your mother didnt approve? It could be for whatever reason - maybe she doesnt like the person, or thought it was too soon after a previous relationship. If she threatened to stop speaking to you based on her disapproval, how would you react?

Again, it may just be because I dont have that type of relationship with my mom that I cant see myself abandoning whatever it is that I chose to do, solely on the basis of her opinion being counter to that of mine, but it strikes me as odd. Shouldnt there come a point in time where you just have to say "Mom, I appreciate that you just want what is best for me, the fact of the matter is, nobody knows whats best for me better than me?" Shouldnt there come a point when you say "I am sorry that you feel that way, but as a grown man/woman, this is my choice to make?"

For men, I have always found it highly aggravating to deal with a man classified as a "mama's boy." The reason being, his mother is always going to be the woman in his life. I totally understand that a woman needs to earn her place at #1, and until she does that, mom may win out, but where is the assurance that once she has shown herself to be worthy, mom isnt going to continue to be officiating your relationship? This is not the threesome most women think about when they say they might be down LOL. Is it wrong for a woman to feel somewhat slighted when hard laid plans are brought to a halt on the basis of a mother's opinion? Is it selfish to feel like a stand should be taken on behalf of a woman you say makes you the happiest you have ever been? When is mama just being selfish, wanting to keep her baby for herself?

Sometimes moms are right. Sometimes moms can see things that we cant because we are so wrapped up in a situation. But as an adult, arent you entitled to choose your own path?

Just wondering where the line is...