16 Signs It’s Time To Leave A Place You Once Loved | Thought Catalog

16 Signs It’s Time To Leave A Place You Once Loved | Thought Catalog


This is coming up more and more every day. I was just having this conversation (for the umpteenth time) with my mother yesterday, a guy I recently met over the weekend and also with one of my girlfriends just last week. People, listen. You are not getting any younger or growing any less miserable sitting in your rut waiting for better. "Better" doesn't generally make house calls. YOU have to go to IT. Don't know where "better" is? Okay. Go FIND it. Maybe you don't know WHAT "better" is - that's okay too. You know why? Because you can CREATE it. "Better" can be whatever, wherever and most importantly WHENEVER you want it to be so why not be, have, get and do better NOW? What's gonna change in a year of sitting around waiting for some great thing to occur that didn't change in the last year of sitting around waiting for it? Well.... other than another year of your life going by that you'll never get back, not a damn thing. One thing I can guarantee is that you WILL look back one of these days and say to yourself, "Damn. I wasted so much time," and you'll wish you had done any one of a million things so much sooner.

I don't like to speak about my transition from there to here because I cant seem to do it without becoming super emotional but that's just how big an impact that move had on my life. Good, bad or indifferent I NEEDED to go. I couldn't breathe. And now, even in my moments of struggle and difficulty, no matter what other decisions of mine I may question, the one thing I never second-guess is that decision to move. That place was changing me into something I didn't recognize and again, more importantly, something I didn't like. I was starting to hate myself and all my shenanigans and the only thing I was sure about was that there were going to be more. A lot more. It takes me back to the conversation I had with my mother about why she attempted to uproot us to Florida at the worst possible time in my life for her to do it. She felt like she was losing herself and she didn't have the strength anymore to fight it. I was at that point. When you get there, what is there to question? You need change to SAVE YOUR LIFE. And if you have kids... WHAT? #comeonson

All that to say this: know when it's time. If you don't recognize when one chapter of your life has closed, your story can go unwritten for much longer than you can afford. When people say life is short, its just to motivate you to get up and do some shit (that you probably ought to do) sooner than your complacency would manage. Truth is life is LONG and you can spend those years moving closer to happy or you can be miserable for no damn reason. What do you choose?